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1. LOVE IS PATIENT
The first part of this test is simple. While love is communication in many different ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart.
To this day, devote yourself to show patience and avoid saying anything negative to your spouse. If the temptation surprises you, do not say anything. It's much better control your tongue to say something you might regret .
What dificl for some of us do this! It is indeed a real challenge to master the language and drop the first thing that comes to mind when something bothers us. However, one of the things that Jesus commanded us is to be patient (Mt. 12, 29) and this is a demonstration of love toward our spouse. We will accept the challenge.
2. Love is kind
addition to not say anything negative to your spouse for a second day, make at least one unexpected gesture of kindness.
not really have to be something great or exaggerated. The major activities consist of small details like setting the table to eat, open the car door, garbage out today instead of him, and so on. And consider what it says: "How well you look in that dress," how beautiful you look today, "" I was rich lunch. "
We say: "What Politeness does not courageous "and is a great truth. The physical and spiritual might be developed between the spouses simply.
We must be polite and attentive to the feelings and thoughts of another. To be urbane is to be aware of respect to ourselves.
(Song of Songs 4)
3. LOVE IS NOT SELFISH
Wherever you put your time, energy and money, will become more important for you. It is very difficult to be interested in something you're not investing anything. In addition to avoiding negative comments, buy your partner something that says: "Today I was thinking of you."
Some tastes are accustomed to have become our masters. We defend ourselves by saying that it's our little quirks to which we are entitled for the work we do, whether outside or inside the home, but our spouse will begrudge the smallest detail. We will invest in us, but above all, we will show that when we are together, we're thinking about each other.
"For where your treasure is, there will your heart" (Mt 6, 21)
4-THE LOVE IS MINDFUL
it also make use of modern technology: a text message, e-mail, instant message, etc.. to send a recadito saying "I hope you're right," "I wish you a nice day", etc. Although the best thing is to hear your message loud and you give a chance to tell you what you can do for him or her.
5. LOVE IS NOT RUDE
Ask your spouse to tell you three things about yourself that make you feel irritation or disgust. You do not attack or justify your behavior. This is only from their perspective.
And of course, it is proposed to correct himself on the points indicate. It is also an exercise to test our resistance to the inconvenient truth, we also exercise in patience the first day and the kindness of the latter. If you are asking yourself, there is no reason to feel attacked and, logically, there is no need to defend themselves. We should do this with some frequency, to be always aware of what annoys our spouse and rectify it immediately.
6. LOVE IS NOT IRRITATING
Today, choose to react to the difficult circumstances of your marriage, in a loving way, instead of showing irritation. Start by listing those areas where you need to have more flexibility and understanding with your partner. After negative lists anywhere you need out of your life.
The things I get riled up about things my partner and I know there are negative about me. This list helps us keep in perspective the things that I am contributing to existing problems in our marriage, not to throw them in the face of the spouse the first conflict we have.
7. CREE AS \u200b\u200bTHE BEST LOVE
For today's assignment, it takes two sheets of paper. In the first, take a few minutes to write positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with the negative things in the second sheet. Save both pages in a secret place for another day.
There is a purpose and a different plan for each. For some time the rest of the day, choose a positive feature of the first list and thank your partner to have this virtue.
8. LOVE IS NOT JEALOUS
Decide to be the biggest fan and admirer of your spouse and rejected any thought jealous. To help you keep your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements and strengths, making the list you made yesterday about their negative attributes and burn slightly. Then share with your spouse (a) how happy you feel the success that he or she has had.
Those who know say that one of the most common causes of divorce today is precisely that professional jealousy between the spouses. We resist the idea that better than us in some or many aspects and causes arguments and unfair competition.
Jealousy is
a lack of appreciation for your loved one. Yvon
Bunin
9. LOVE HAS A FRIENDLY FACE
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and enthusiasm. Then make up your mind to change your way of welcoming you to reflect love for him or her.
Throughout my life I have learned to greet warmly the people I love. But I learned at home in my family is not accustomed. So for me it was a real challenge for my husband to bring this practice for years have been with my friends and recently with my daughters.
taken me understand that how they greet the couple says a lot about the relationship they have. And it is not matter much as the others "see" it. It's because what matters most is that my husband sees it and feels.
Greet one another with brotherly kiss. (1Pe. 5.14)
10. LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL
do something unusual for your spouse-something that proves you and him or her that your love is based on your decision and nothing more. Wash the car, clean the kitchen, purchase your favorite dessert, fold the laundry. Show your love for this to be your partner (A) in marriage.
From day one we committed "in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health" Particularly I think to demonstrate unconditional takes more than washing a car or help at home. But understand that this is a "resume" in marriage hurt. My husband and I have been through many trials on this subject and I think we Bunea grade until now.
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