By Laura Aguilar Ramírez.
Everything is the same forever? No. Only God is immutable. His creation changes. In one year, we have spring, summer, autumn and winter. If God made the world that way, how can we pretend that men and women do not change?
And this change is not only physical. Priorities change, change ideas, changing concepts. Only love remains.
equals in a marriage. The marriage is changing as the two people that shape it, change accordingly.
I have the personal experience of people I remember as a child and years later, can not believe it's me who comes before them, because I've changed a lot. Even people who knew me not many years ago, do not recognize me that went for 13, because I've changed in that time. Even my own children, my own husband does not fully accept who I am today. Because people have many facets like diamonds.
What is diamond? A mineral extracted from the earth, black as coal, which is vitraliza with fire and which is then polished facets. There are no diamonds or diamond multilayer tringulares, hexagonal, octagonal, etc.. depending on the desire of those who polished.
Marriage is also like a diamond.
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marriage in any situations arise that cause disputes and misunderstandings . However, it is possible to build relationships established by following some basic guidelines.
a marriage is no easy task.
Often two people who supposedly loved, suddenly the being married are differences that confuse and frustrate. No couple can avoid the emergence of differences.
It is inherent to the state of coexistence. There are many factors that explain the differences and for understanding the varied ways of reacting to humans, in the case of husband and wife, at least it should be noted that: They are male and female
is the most obvious but, however, overlooked easily. Men and women are constitutionally different.
Their differences are not only physical, there are sharp contrasts in the way they interact with emotions, how to handle conflicts, how to internalize problems, etc..
If you do not take into account this factor, the marriage may never be properly understood.
Each person has his own personal history
Simply come from different family environments make a difference, no matter whether they are of the same religion, country, race or culture, every family is a totally different universe opposed to another.
Ways to interact in a family are dissimilar to others. If we add to that specific problems, life experiences, etc. we find two people, who although they love each other should discover their different worlds.
Humans change
We do not marry but human statues. Change is essential to human reality. The most obvious changes are physical. However, other changes are more subtle and therefore more powerful in terms of emotion and sensitivity:
Ways to see reality, change of habits, changing concepts, the list is long.
The essence of humanity is changed.
it into account we get rid of the hackneyed phrase that is absurd in terms of coexistence, "you before you were different." Obviously, who is always the same? People will be "equal" only if they have mental harm or if by chance are frozen in time.
The capacity of internalization of concepts is different from one person to another
An item can have many interpretations, depending on how many people read and from what perspective vital. A sermon, a notice, a common experience as a natural disaster, etc. have multiple ways of seeing, depending on the individual and their particular view of life and environment.
The mistake is to think that everyone should feel and think only against a fact.
what to do to live peacefully as husband and wife?
There infallible, but at least should be considered minimum tips that will be able to handle the differences better.
1. Accept and understand the differences between male and female
* There are minor differences in which it is possible to have a more or less successful. But there are others that need to be deepened to reach fully understand, a process that can take years.
* The stereotypes say that women are emotional and rational man. However, this is an absurd reductionism, there are men with a high degree of emotional response and women who tend to be logical and rational in their responses. * What
both must find out is how we tend to act with respect to everyday situations.
* Not all act the same way, or in all situations have the same type of response.
2. Make arrangements
* An agreement is that two different parties reach a point of agreement where both parties decide to do something to make the relationship work.
* Based on a mutual commitment and trust that makes us know that each will do everything possible to fulfill what has been proposed.
3. Prioritize
* It is really frustrating to see so many couples that their married life thrown overboard because they have clarity on their priorities.
* wisdom is a matter of setting priorities and putting the spouse, children and family in a prominent place in life.
* Failure to establish priorities right, sooner or later the marriage be shattered. Conclusion
Every marriage is a world apart, a particular universe. However, there are certain principles applicable to every marital relationship, their fall always brings a great deal of anxiety and confusion in people's lives.
stopping to look at ways of consensus and agreements will deliver us from the painful task to be picking up the pieces of a destroyed marriage.
Life is too short to afford to ruin one of the most significant relationships of human life, the marital relationship.
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