When you live the stage of courtship, only takes a boyfriend or girlfriend as appropriate. It does not get one to think that having a family. As you progress in the engagement, is also one relating to our beloved with family. It is a hearing about the way you live or problems they have. comes a time when the family is known. Before the question was more "cheesy" some would say. A boyfriend did not enter the house, if it was not something formal. Or in their case was not presented to the bride until it was something more formal. Knowing the family was then a importnnte step in the relationship.
Today, these "formalities" are outdated, unfortunately.
I say unfortunately because the engagements between the boys begin and end with amazing ease. In many homes, the parade of boyfriends or girlfriends is endless, looking like normal.
Personally, no I like to meet a girlfriend and one of my children. I hope that when bringing home a girl, is because their relationship is already a certain formality.
not think that brides should be known to our children until they are practically getting married. I think it must be a previous relationship, have confidence needed to go.
Many girls or boys parents-in-law called her boyfriend's home, but are not. This relationship in-law or daughter-in-law is given from the time when there is marriage.
While most know of a boyfriend / aa parent of their partner, the more likely you are to get an idea of \u200b\u200bhis nature. It forms a bond of trust between them, it will be useful in marriage.
Maybe that's one reason why there are so many problems actually are, in the relationship and marriage laws: do not know many times, but who will marry the couple.
What relationship do the laws, if they marry the bride and groom? Mucha.
are the parents of the person we love. They are the people who love them.
And as important as laws, are the brothers, they are the people closest to our spouse.
That is the reason why I enjoy meeting the brides of my children, I like to call them daughters, I like to call my other son "brother." Not until it is really a relationship formal.
A father or mother must be like a mother or father, if not carnal, if emotionally. A brother or sister is like an adopted brother and I can not have children for a while and then not have them.
At least I think bonding with people I know and the longer the conosco, those ties begin to narrow. And that bring home a "girlfriends," one begins to estimate them and then finish. ... and soon, bring another, frankly is not in my thinking.
is commonly called "laws" to the groom's parents. For me they are not.
Just as they are not "brothers" his brothers.
Marriage is an institution joining the pair for life. Therefore, the laws are for life, as well as brothers.
think as I say, it is very important that brides and grooms conoscan to your partner's family, living with them during courtship, I think this helps a lot in the marriage because although we know of a couple is not as well live together.
marriage goes through several stages. The first is adaptation to another in a common life, which is not easy. If we add that also have to adapt to the family of his wife (with all that implies the suit, know, accept, get used to small issues that we think, learn to smooth the rough edges, etc.). the question becomes more difficult.
hear much that marriage is two. And it is true
hear much that problems are solved between them. And ICLS.
However, I hear that many of those problems stem from not accepting the other's family. And the rejection is by not living with them.
So if you are in the stage of their engagement has passed the stage where they think might be a lifelong relationship, I recommend you begin to relate to their families.
Although many believe it is important that only care about their relationship as a couple. This is not true. And not, for the simple reason that we are all born into a family, that family influences the way we are because we were educated by them are people we want as we want. And when you love someone, you want to be near them.
The more we know a person, it is easier to accept. The acceptance comes understanding. Understanding and acceptance lead to love.
I love my in-laws, as well as my brothers, nephews. Just like all my husband's family that he knows, because his family used to meet among themselves.
And that love was born of knowledge, accepting their faults and its virtues.
There have been problems or misunderstandings, but these occurred mostly early in our marriage. And
were not met because only a few months before we got married and had no opportunity to interact with them before our marriage. So the meet was given during my marriage and was not an easy relationship, in contrast, was quite difficult. Both
such as the relationships between people who have a bond so tight, but do not know enough to accept that loop.
Without being brothers-in-law and his family, they are his family and is important to know this game. I say this from experience.
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