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WWW.JESUSSALVAMIFAMILIA.ORG Hello Friend and Future Mrs.
According to my friend I heard you are getting married, and well, I read it much this put together and attentive care to each of the advice I will give.
begin at the beginning, because I took this trouble, or I'm in charge of disturbing, because I do not have done very well in marriage, I am an expert in part with the same woman, the last period was two years but I thank God for this day two years together again adjusted, return and reconstruction of my home was because of prayer, rosary, Mass and great dedication to God, much prayer and conversion. Account of that experience was born this site whose members unfortunately increasing day by day account of divorce and separations.
are many ideas that I pile up at this time, the divine, human, communication, privacy, therefore, ask for the Holy Spirit to enlighten me as to begin to communicate what I achieved and managed to understand what I want to say.
The ideas are:
Marriage is a vocation
marriage was happy to make another
My commitment is to always (in the good and bad)
You marry the family
People usually does not change
We can not get married to solve a problem
God be the center of marriage with kisses
Visitors girlfriend every weekend is one thing, live with it is another
what you are missing
When it comes to love and reason. Love is a decision.
That happens to others, I do not.
Too bad guys write something so long but as most, if such an important decision, because at least I as plasma all fundamental and not a detail escaped me, so I will not go as I was to me. Let us begin
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be like a wise man who built his house upon the rock;
and rain fell and the floods came, and the winds blew,
and fell upon that house, but not collapsed
it was founded on the rock.
But everyone who hears these words of mine but not a doer,
look like a foolish man who built his house upon the sand
and the rain fell and the floods came, and the winds blew,
and crashed into that house and it collapsed and its destruction was great "
(Matthew 7, 24-27 )
One thing I promise if you ignore this advice and found a home on God ... when difficulties come "will come out winners." Jesus does not promise to exempt us from the difficulties ... PROMISE THAT THE HOUSE IS NOT THAT WAS collapsed well grounded
1. Marriage is a vocation
Look, let's go for an example of reverse psychology, imagine that God had called to be a monk and a nun, or priest and a nun, you have gone through a stage of falling in love with God, he had been told that if and after many years (5 for some religious congregations) would make their final vows, well, issue is, do their votes, and after the big ceremony was dedicated to work and stop praying and talking with God, just work, work, activism and advocacy .. as they had done when they were novices .. I assure you that within 5 months and are outside the convent, monastery or looking girlfriend .. being priests. left to care for the calling to prayer and union with God.
Conclusions:
- Vocations are given by God and with God we must take care, but disappear
- double vocation is not kept with the same zeal that a religious vocation, will be mediocre and prone to failure.
2.The marriage was happy to make another
The idea is very clear, each spouse should be worrying about making happy the other, oblivious to whether, if given .. if your happiness is happy to see the other, both will be happy. You do not get married to be happy with yourself ... that's selfishness ... WITHOUT GIVING THE CONDITIONS AND WITHOUT expecting anything in return is the key.
3.Mi commitment is forever (in the good and bad)
For a couple of grooms who are getting married is easy to understand this, and who look to the eyes, sigh and say with deep voice and love, "always be with you", look, our spouse is the only family one can choose and to God you two are one flesh, the union is stronger than that between parents and children, ustes never divorced from his father, his mother, brothers, uncles, etc. .. Well never be divorced from the person you choose, if compromise is good and bad. Well you say, the bad news is when you are sick and / or we are poor .. this is a kind of "bad" but another kind of "the bad" is ...:
- when you're a drunk
- smell bad when
- when 're bad example
- When you are unbearable
- a drunk
- addicted
- an adulterer
- when I do not love me I'll love you and I will pray for you to be better and come back (hence this site came out - when one of the spouses is going today .. because people are going for anything .. the other is in the middle of nowhere and dedication to God and then returns to its life has forces to regain his spouse as is in danger of eternal damnation)
Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two become one person. Genesis 2.21-25
4.Te family homes
Well here is a part that you will agree me much later. is that you marry the family may be that the husband gets the job of his life and will live together happily to Norway, away from Mom and Dad, and mothers-in-law, and the horrible decision with whom we spent Christmas and New Year (which is usually one of the earlier discussions), well, the truth is that you marry the family, back in that place where they were building relationships, which are selfish, or sympathetic , inattentive or inconsiderate, so aa to be when they marry, some time later .. when magic happens ... his and hers are going to become what they are at home at this time .. when the new person in life transformation from novelty and become normal person and family. If in the house are conflicting, in the new house he or she will be conflicting ... whether at home are partiers, ... is very likely that in this new house or she wants to be a party animal ... The point is that ONE IS YOUR FAMILY .. YOUR REACTION TO THE CIRCUMSTANCES .. IT'S LIKE TO BE LEARNED ONE FAMILY .. that is why the grandmother said .. AND THAT FAMILY IS .. perhaps asking for the names .. but asking more .. from what they were and whether the services were going to send the new family.
5. People usually do not change
This is a reality that only succeeds cancer, a very serious accident, loss, or a vice that surrounds us and spoil us, but people do not change, who married thinking that the other would change .. or that it would change a mistake, one they love as it is or do not love him. Which was womanizer .. generally will continue to be a womanizer, which is superb and hard-hearted, usually what will remain and so with a number of defects. 6.No
we can get married to solve a problem
The title says it all, when one of the spouses cease to be the solution to the problem, the interest will disappear. Example: a woman marries to solve an economic issue or leaving home, when the situation of leaving the household and the economic problem is solved, if there is no true love, the relationship is doomed to failure.
7. God must be the center of marriage
source of love God must be who continue to give love to the couple, at the time the sacrament, God gives grace to bring all holy, well the only way to join two rings is through a loop, that loop is God, who is responsible for providing a source of love for the couple, invoke GOD ALWAYS .. getting up, lying down, eating, bendiganse each other before going to work, bless the food together, give up their day to God, dedicate your intimacy with God to strengthen them and a more through it. God wants marriages be happy and if you have it forever .. center He will take care that nothing and no one put asunder.
Two are better than one, then get the most out of their work. And if one of them falls, the other rises. But woe to the man who falls to be alone, for no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, each other warm, but one, how will go into heat? Though one may be overpowered, two can resist. And, the cord of three strands is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4.9-11
8.Darse kisses with girlfriend every weekend is one thing, live with it is another
The text is not only geared towards women is one thing to be kissing each Weekend (and to be intimate with a boyfriend or girlfriend .. thing is sin, immorality and sin against the sixth commandment) and another to live, are things entirely distinct and different, as discussed under " 4. you marry the family "and when you see the familiarity, the manias, the order or disorder in its own way of doing things that annoy the other, being alone and not being able, not wanting to smile and have at times to explain when you do not want to give, there's a different story. Boyfriends always we kept the best for the couple, and although the marriage should be so, it is not, and do not always keep the best, and our beloved .. touch him to see the comings and goings of our lives, our genius and our way of doing things .. see our inconsistencies and inconsistencies, and we also her .. in such cases there .. is where the ponds to test the love .. that's where you love the person's being and not by way of being.
9. Be faithful
know that both are married to be faithful to each other. ok and they know the tremendous wound that is adultery in families, in couples, cheating etc. and it is devastating. But hey there are more types of infidelity, the first and is extremely serious, the heart. look at this quote:
"Everyone who looks askance at a woman has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Mt 5, 28)
adultery That also hurts the family, the individual, pornography and eroticism in the movies and novels that we want to encourage men and women, and that the union is torn apart God wants us. The same is unfaithful when there is something more important than our spouses (Obviously God first) but if something like ... work, money, my mother, my father, etc, I am lacking in the love of my partner and I am allowing the relationship is torn apart.
10. The first thing is lost: Communication
We are together, live together, bathe together, eat together, sleep together ... we are always, always or is she there, both are no longer a novelty, she is very busy with things around the house, the very busy at work, finding it failed to communicate, were left counting the details that were told every day by phone, minutiae, he said and I said, how I felt and how they besieged and TAKEN THE SAFETY OF HOME ... became the enemy separated and grow into a pair of strangers. And when someone new is interested in me or her dire "THIS (E) IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN HOUSE NO .." and start the stories of infidelities minimum heart. 11.When
be loved with reason: love is a decision !!!!.
This happens, and can read all the books sicolgía, and the infatuation lasts 2 to 3 years, then be loved with reason. The heart beats more slowly and reason begin to show the flip side of our family, well that's where love is established in a decision and where love is an exercise of reason. I leave for work further on this issue, although it is generally played in all courses before marriage.
12. That happens to others, I do not or we are NOT!. Currently
you take the hand which bud and Pimpernel, which pair of lovers and couples looking for friends and family, find similarities and differences, and eye to eye ... say so we never try, we never do this, well, I tell them that they too are promised eternal love and looked like they look now, you MUST InfraBuilder FORGIVE AND OVERCOMING .. Heal the wounds ... LEARN FROM THEM AND BURIED BUT . SI .. everything that happens to couples both good and bad .. you will most likely happen. Work together to strengthen their love and to heal wounds faster. for when hard times come to know to address them.
Mark 3:25 And if a house is divided against itself, that house can not stand. 13.The
marriage as a commitment to life
This I leave to visit, but they Question: I want the full blessing of God for you and your children? ... do not use abortion as birth control methods Copper-T (in general, all contraceptive methods are abortifacients except for the condom), I suggest studying natural methods can bring, out of curiosity. 14.The
marriage is a sacrament, what does that mean?
Sacremento If you analyze all leads to union with God as a living sacrament you are called to bring God's children and train them in love and bring the love of God to men. That's what it means to be living sacrament. Over time it will understand that
15. Our duty to eternity
Read this text: Ephesians
5.21
Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. 5.22
women to their husbands, as unto the Lord,
5.23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is head of the Church, El Salvador's body. 5.24
As the church is subject unto Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 5.25
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it,
5.26 to sanctify it, cleansing by the washing of water under the floor,
5, 27 and present it to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but holy and blameless. 5.28
So husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 5.29
no one ever hated his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the Church,
(I began to emphasize and underlining end all) but in this text as key you look at these two items highlights, I want you to ponder:
- gave Himself for the spouse (THIS IS NOT JUST FOR THE ESPOSITO)
- THE DUTY IS TO Spouse PRESETNAR before God at the time of death Holy and Immaculate .. that is, his whole life should be a continuous work for the sanctity of another
16.La intimacy is a gift of love
Quick Tips respect to privacy:
- is not a prize
- is not a punishment
- is given
- Join
- is not an obligation
- is not to satisfy the passion he feels by one or another (unfortunately)
- is not to satisfy genitality
- is to manifest and mutual self-giving love, (God made us sexed .. could not have done it ... but maybe in the climax of love and devotion, could generate life)
- not to miss the other person's dignity
17.Los relatives, in-laws, etc (and manage)
In dating we often forget an important part coming to be part of the couple ... in-laws, uncles, nephews .. hairpieces. Eventually when the couple have already made the decision to formalize the relationship and seek and a union forever les touches include in the daily life of these parts will always be families in their lives. Often
for wanting to ingratiate ourselves with the future in-laws and other relatives assume certain positions and appear as pleasant, always cheerful, ready for anything even to accept a tip but when the truth can be for the bride or groom a inappropriate advice, bad taste and even that they are guests without being called.
order to maintain a good relationship between the couple and their future in-laws and other familiars is indispensable from the beginning to set some precedents that may prevent future ill entendiods and dislikes that may lead to the division not only between families but also among boyfriends and / or husbands and get to be the wedding.
Since the beginning of a relationship that apparently came to the altars esbueno that each one feels apart from their own parents and communicate the importance of maintaining good relations among all and that for that to have respect for the privacy of their esperenado be invited. With Love explains that the couple have agreed to maintain their privacy without anyone opine unless they are called.
All couples need space and from the beginning is something that should make it clear to prevent damage to the relationship between husband and wife .. There is a saying that says "THE HOUSE MARRIED .. AND NOBODY WANTS TO PLAY AT THE DOOR CAN NOT BE GUEST .. "and one that my dad used to say is "behind the door of every home is a different world from the other" .. therefore false-laws and families should understand that no one should get into the intimacies of family and let everyone live their independence.
Some important points to consider for the engaged and / or future husband come to live out happy, even if hard times come:
1. Known beforehand, know well the costmbres of both parties know that some things in common between them and the families of each such as religious beliefs, interests, education .. etc.
2.Ser always friendly, courteous, use good vocabulary and good manners.
3. Avoid arguing in front of the in-laws and / or part family and part auqnue at any given time there are differences between the couple, this would give for them to take both parties and discussions which they would do is alienate the couple and damage the relationship. Parents will always continue to see children as their "children" and may not like to conceal more than that other person treats you badly.
4. Each must demonstrate interest in the other's family and be aware of them in health, and other achievements that give each of the parties including the in-laws and relatives happy to know there is interest in them and are taken into account.
5. Much respect for the laws and relatives of each. However similar they are families in customs, traditions there is always something different and that should be respected although it does go in line with the partner and vice versa.
Note that the union of the couple all will be a family and maintain the basic values \u200b\u200blike prudence, tolerance will give to the relationship between families is nice and always handle situations with wisdom, elegance , height and harmony.
The couple must always keep in mind that not only marry each other ... get married with families of each person and to love and accept them always looking to keep the distance necessary to always keep the relationship solid and forever.
But any situation or problem mild or severe, is better than the couple settled without having heard the whole circle without reviewing the context of what is really happening and bringing problems and distracting. IF YOU CHOOSE BETWEEN FAMILY Debbo .. AND THE NEW FAMILY .. MUST CHOOSE THE NEW FAMMILIA, THE NEW HOME NEW MARRIAGE .. It is written
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and be united to his wife
, and they become one flesh.
WHICH IS MADE BY ANY SHORT HUMBILICAL CORD WITH PARENTS AND START A NEW ADVENTURE OF FAMILY ACCOMPANIED BY THE HAND OF GOD
18.Ante choose love every situation
arrive, dark moments of struggle, of hardship and confrontation, at the time, but the other does not want and do not choose to love.
not about being stupid and dumb, you are seeking a greater good, show them the other as only react favorably ama.aunque deathbed.
there is going to finish this laaaaaaaaaaarrrgo mail the hymn to love
1 Corinthians, Chapter 13
13.1 If I speak in tongues of men and angels, if I have no love, I am as sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal. 13.2
If I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, though I have all faith can move mountains, if I have no love, I am nothing. 13.3
though I bestow all my goods, and surrender my body to be burned, if I have no love, I gain nothing. 13.4
Love is patient and kind, Love is not envious, not boastful, not conceited;
13.5 is decent, does not seek its own interests, not provoked, takes no account of evil;
13.6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices with the truth. It bears
13.7. Believes all things. All you hold. Always perseveres. 13.8
Love never ends. Disappear prophecies. Leave the language. Science disappear. 13.9
Because our science is partial and biased our prophecy.
13.10 When perfection comes, the partial will disappear.
13.11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I left all childish things. 13.12
now see in a mirror dimly. Then face to face. Now I know in part but then shall I know as I am known. 13.13
So faith, hope and love, these three. But the greatest of these is Love
Prayer husbands
or praise you, God of our fathers, blessed be your name forever. Let heaven and all creation praise you for ever. You made Adam and gave him his wife Eve as a companion and support. And two of them the whole human race was born. You said: "It's not good that man should be alone. I'm going to make someone who is a helper fit for him. " Now take this woman and not on desires impure but with sincere intentions. Deign to have mercy on me and on her and grant us to get together with old age "Tobit 8.5-7
biblical quotes about marriage
or Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord (Eph. 5:22)
or For the husband is head of his wife (Eph. 5:23 )
or Christ is the head and savior of the church, which is his body. Just as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything (Eph. 5:23, 24)
or Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it (Eph. 5:25)
or He who loves his wife loves himself, because nobody has hated never his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of His body (Eph. 5:28-30)
or In any case, each of you love his wife as his own same, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)
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How to improve your relationship with your spouse
- Learn to talk, listen, explain and understand even win / win.
- Be patient with the process and the individual.
- Treat / a delicately.
- Be willing to learn from him / her.
- Accept / a as it is, without demanding things you can not give.
- Be open when discussing points on which they differ.
- Focus on the qualities and deeds of him / her, before highlighting the bad.
- Before issuing a negative to attack your spouse, stop breathing and turn it into something positive.
- Resume activities and hobbies that they practiced together in happier times
- yourself the following questions:
- What makes me feel loved (o)?
- What does my spouse feel loved (o)?
- How I can find new expressions to show my love to my spouse this week?
- Clean Slate
- not make the list grievance
- Mutual respect in words, deeds and gestures.
- Be a person of discretion.
- not fall into the boredom and routine.
- Avoid unnecessary arguments.
- Having a healthy sex life, positive and focused on communication.
- constantly improve and refine the difficulties of coexistence.
- sense of humor.
- Coping with difficult situations.
- Communication skills.
- days Enter roses.
- know that life is mixed.
- not want to control your spouse.
- Change irrational ideas
- Introduce your partner in public with pride and saying something positive.
- "spoil" your spouse.
- When angry, then an action to the wife.
- Offer voluntary collaboration to do something.
- Two key words: grace and forgiveness.
- Pause to change roles once a year: in the house as she wants.
- Compliment your partner's taste from time to time.
- good humor.
- is not who is right, but to love.
- Think occasionally in moments good of courtship and marriage.
spouse must be
- Do you spend more time criticizing your spouse considering his positive traits and nice?
- Does your spouse things that annoy you feel you must draw your attention?
- Do you talk with contempt on the backs of your spouse? Has
- you put such high standards for your spouse or you can keep them?
- Press "you to your spouse to conform to the rules you've imposed in order to more easily accept
| Finally, a story: A Reflection on the True Love |
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| Wednesday, 26 September 2007 |
| A famous teacher was faced with a youth group who were against the marriage. The boys argued that romantic love is the true sustenance of couples and it is better to end the relationship when this is turned off, instead of entering the hollow monotony of marriage. The teacher said he respected his opinion, but I recalled: My parents lived married 55 years. One morning my mom went downstairs to prepare breakfast and my dad had a heart attack. Fell. reached My father, raised as he could and almost dragged her up to the truck. At full speed, passing, without respecting the high, drove to the hospital. When he arrived, unfortunately, had already died. During the funeral, my father spoke, his gaze was lost. Almost did not cry. That night his children joined him. In an atmosphere of sorrow and nostalgia remember beautiful anecdotes. The theologian asked my brother to tell him where mom would at that time. My brother began to talk about life after death, conjectured how and where would it. My father listened with great atención.De soon asked: "take me to the cemetery." Dad, "I answer, it is 11 pm, we can not go to the cemetery now! He raised his voice and looking glassy said "Do not argue with me please, do not argue with the man who just lost what was his wife of 55 years." There was a moment of respectful silence. Más.Fuimos not discuss the cemetery, asking permission to the lamp, lantern arrived at the tombstone. stroked my father cried and told us children that we saw the scene shocked: "They were 55 good years. Know? No one can speak of true love if you have no idea what it is to share life with a woman like that. " He paused and wiped his face. "She and I were together in that crisis, job change," he continued, ".. Did my luggage when I sold the house and moved to town, we share the joy of seeing our children finish their careers, we cried a side by side heading of loved ones, pray together in the waiting room of some hospitals we rely on the pain, we embrace every Christmas, and forgive our mistakes ............. Sons, is now gone and I'm happy, you know why?, because was before I did not have to live the agony and pain of bury, of being alone after my departure I who will go through that, and I thank God. I love her so much that I would have liked to suffer ... "When my father finished speaking, my brothers and I had the face soaked with tears. Hugged him and he consoled us: "Everything is fine sons, we go home, it was a good day." That night I understood what is true love. Romantic far, it has to do too much with the eroticism, but rather is related to work and care that two people profess to be really committed. When the teacher finished speaking, university students could not be discussed, that kind of love was something I did not know. |
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