In these times when the marriage goes on the decline I would put my two cents with some things I've seen in the relationships of several couples who have seen to start their conjugal life and love have been separated. I ended up
draw some conclusions and all have their origins in the words that God said to Noah and his family when the flood came and the land was dry and they were just across the land.
"Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth, and fill the waters in the seas, and the volatile multiply on the earth" .
Genesis - 23.
And one is reading the book of Genesis (2, 18-24)
The Lord God said: - "It is not good that man should be alone, I will ask someone like him help."
Then the Lord God formed out of clay all the beasts of the field and every bird of the sky and submitted them to the man to see what name they got. And every living being would be called the man to wear.
So the man gave names to all cattle, birds of the air and the beasts of the field, but there was no one like him to help him.
Then the Lord God cast a deep sleep on the man and the man fell asleep. He took a rib and closed the site meat.
And the Lord God worked the rib he had taken the man, making a woman and brought her to the man.
The man said: - "This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh!
His name is Male, because it left the man.
why a man leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. "
I do not think the lack of love is the cause of many separations. I think it's the lack of wisdom and divine wisdom. The lack of wisdom in choosing the place where they live as a couple.
I'll put some conclusions I have drawn and so I ended up observing couples have in common I know and have separated or who have finished many problems between them.
says an old Mexican saying: "A married, home wants," modified "the married man, home is.":
- Many of these couples have lived with their parents during a time of their marriage. These problems have not been solved a long time.
- Many of those couples have lived near his parents in the same field, in the same division or in the same colony.
- Other couples living in the same street or neighborhood relatives of both partners.
- Other couples have lived in the homes of relatives without paying rent and not cooperating in the maintenance and care of them.
As you can see what these couples have in common is that their problems began refusing to accept and endorse the word of God "the man leave the house of his parents." And women too, of course.
But the word of God does not come there. He continues: "and become one flesh" . And also applies to women, of course.
I can count so many cases like my grandmother and her sisters who were married or joined with boys their own street or neighborhood and ended up living tremendous dramas, all ended up separated from their husbands. Some went to live with their husbands, but all had a bit on the land of their fathers.
Another couple went to live away from his family, after living in the home of her parents, who offered his house while stabilizing its economy since he earned very little and she did not agree to the place that he could pay.
A couple more in which he withdrew because his wife built the house of his parents, not wanting to go to where he could pay rent. She followed him, but never has agreed to live as God intended marriage because he feels that gives security to have "his" house to house of his parents.
And to live away from her family began l you expensive trips to visit or pay for trips to her mother increasingly lengthening their stay to neglect her husband and other children.
Another couple living in the big house of some relatives of her paying rent and did not agree to live in the department of social interest that her husband had purchased, which ended up selling and buying a house other credit largest credit this time acquired by it.
Another couple in which she lives with her parents in a comfortable and does not agree to start with what she and her husband can do.
And I can go on and on with cases in which particular woman is not suited to his new position, to begin in a smaller place with fewer amenities than the house of their fathers, or have an inheritance or security that prevents surrender himself to his new lifestyle.
I'm not feminist, let alone sexist, my comments may sound like that, but it is not. Marriage is becoming one flesh. To marry the man and the woman brings everyone what is and what he has. That's "separate property" seems silly. That's "just does not work, you leave me, if ...."
Faith is a leap in the dark. The marriage also. And it's a leap that is given together.
I do not mean this, that if I have something to give up her inheritance, but consider my spouse possessing the same as I have, without fear that I remove it.
remember my grandfather telling me: "Mijito, studying a race if your husband leaves you bad." And of course, I did not listen. Studied for pleasure, for self-improvement, but never thinking that my husband leave me bad "
There is another Mexican saying: "Not much wax that burns the saint, nor so little that does not shine." I have discussed cases where the couple live so close to his family who burned and others who want to put land in between are not lighted. Living
removed from the family makes it pleasant to visit, but living so far from them to leave expensive to do so, it also brings problems, as in the case of a couple where she is from Venezuela and came to Mexico with her husband have a son and after a while starts nostalgia and return trips, the lot of expense of money, neglecting her husband and family.
Many of these couples have chosen for filing in other countries or other states, running away from his family. And no one who does this, can live well.
The Gospels tell us to forgive, if we have someone we solve problems. Many of these couples have chosen to go away because of problems between them, their family or relatives of any of them. And still having problems. Habemos
couples like my husband and I, who for economic reasons we left our city, but no grudges against the family. Before leaving, we solve our problems with them, if we had. The distance has increased the love for our families, unlike many couples who leave resentful. It suffers from having far the family because he loves them, but share and enjoy being with them when they visit.
summary: Marriage is a common life, where I put everything I am, all I have and my spouse makes what is and what he has, holding nothing back.
The day I left the house my parents took everything: my books, my clothes, my shoes, to the last pin that I had. And they became our books.
My clothes and my shoes of course did not become my husband jajja but everything else I had another: my good humor, my intelligence, my people skills, my dexterity, my studies; I put everything for the sake of my marriage.
My husband did the same.
A car with the sign "Just Married" where he is driving, she at his side.
And behind them, tied to the car, boats, cans and pans.
not just to make noise wherever they go, but is an image full of symbolism:
The driving. She co-pilot. Carrying everything they have and are.
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